Post-pubescent rant
I am not a knight in shining armour. I will not sweep you off your feet. I don’t believe in picking up women. I don’t believe in women picking up men. Why? Because it’s violent. Acts of courtship – ‘picking-up,’ ‘hitting-on’ – are violent. If not, then they are manipulative: romance, allure, solicit, and so on. What of this? Why is it that two people cannot get romantically involved without abusing one another? Is there something inherently abusive in romance? ‘Fucking’ sure is vulgar, and it certainly seems injurious. ‘Sex’ on the other hand seems a bit more mutual. Does all of this have something to do with possession? Submission? We seize our partners; our partners submit. Do we submit as well? Are we seized? Is there such a thing as mutual seizure? Is this romance? My favourite romantic moments have been tranquil ones: cuddling on the couch, a long walk, a good laugh. I don’t remember any seizures. Where’s the hurt? Or is romantic violence violence without injury – even a welcomed violence? Do we all have some primal yearning to be abused? Abuse without pain? This doesn’t make any sense.
Perhaps we can distinguish a philosopher from an everyman by their will to act when in a state of confusion. The former simply never acts – this gives him plenty of time to figure things out. I’ll be single for some time – maybe some day I’ll actually get something figured out. This sux.
Perhaps we can distinguish a philosopher from an everyman by their will to act when in a state of confusion. The former simply never acts – this gives him plenty of time to figure things out. I’ll be single for some time – maybe some day I’ll actually get something figured out. This sux.
posted by Nicholas @ 27.1.06
3 Comments:
i agree with your comments entirely michelle - in fact i think this is the most i've ever agreed with on any one thing ever.
it looks like this discussion has moved to:
http://objectivecollective.blogspot.com/2006/01/fucking-sure-is-vulgar_31.html
this is a new group blog i've started with some friends.
mich, you want in?
I too have something to say, Chuk.
I don’t believe in masturbation. Why? Because it’s violent. Acts of private sexual self-gratification – ‘choking the chicken,’ ‘firing the surgeon general’ – are violent. If not, then they are implicitly manipulative: we stroke it, pet it, and so forth . What of this? Why is it a person cannot sexually gratify himself without performing the act of choking or smothering (palming)? Is there something inherently abusive in masturbation? ‘Whacking off’ sure is vulgar, and it certainly seems injurious. ‘Wanking’ on the other hand seems less harmful. Does all of this have something to do with male aggression? Self-depracation? We spill our seed with every climax. Do we spill a little bit of ourselves every time as well? Are we lying to ourselves everytime we perform these acts? Is there such a thing as harmless masturbation? Is this natural? Is musturbatory violence violence without injury – even a welcomed violence? Do we all have some primal yearning to harm ourselves? Self-injury without pain? This doesn't make any sense.
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Please don't see this as a personal attack, Chuk. I simply wrote this to illustrate how unconvincing and fallacious I find these sorts of arguments to be. For the most part I agree with your sentiments on what relationships really ought to be about, but as far as i'm concerned casual sex or "picking people up" is a private, karmic issue - not a moral one (ditto for masturbation, obviously). I'd be glad to discuss this with you another time - but preferably vis a vis.
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